Forgiving Yourself!

Episode 11 — Forgiving Yourself

You extend grace to everyone around you. But when was the last time you genuinely extended it to yourself?

In this very honest episode, Kristen addresses one of the most powerful keys to freedom available to any woman, forgiving yourself. Not minimizing what happened, but making the clear decision to release yourself from carrying what God has already covered.

Kristen opens with refreshing honesty: we are human. We say dumb things, do dumb things, make decisions we wish we could undo, and sometimes fail the people we love, including ourselves. Self-forgiveness is not for a select few women with particularly dramatic pasts. It is for every woman who has ever judged herself and kept that judgment running in the background of her life.

In this episode you will discover:
What self-forgiveness actually is and what it is not

Why every ambitious woman who holds herself to a high standard needs this work

The specific ways self-unforgiveness shows up in perfectionism, people pleasing, and self-sabotage

Five powerful things that become available to you when you forgive yourself

What Romans 8:1, 1 John 1:9, and Lamentations 3:22-23 say about your freedom

Why receiving God’s forgiveness without forgiving yourself creates a gap that quietly costs you everything

The four-step Self-Forgiveness Practice to walk you from awareness to genuine release

Your Four-Step Self-Forgiveness Practice:
Step 1: Name it honestly — write down specifically what you have been holding against yourself
Step 2: Acknowledge the real impact without exaggerating it — separate truth from guilt’s additions
Step 3: Receive His forgiveness before you extend your own — pray specifically and read Romans 8:1 and 1 John 1:9 out loud over yourself
Step 4: Make the decision — say out loud: I forgive myself for this. I release myself from carrying this any further. I agree with what God says about me.

Scriptures referenced in this episode:
Romans 8:1 — There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
1 John 1:9 — If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Lamentations 3:22-23 — The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new every single morning.

Mentioned in this episode:
Private 1:1 Coaching with Kristen — contact@kristenivanov.com
Connect with Kristen on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn
Visit kristenivanov.com

Your action step from this episode:
Work through the four-step Self-Forgiveness Practice this week. Take your time with each step. Be gentle with yourself. And remember — He already declared no condemnation. All that remains is for you to agree with Him.

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